Grief and Self Care.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve, however there are some unhealthy ways to cope with grief that will only delay the process. The ONLY way to deal with grief is to walk through it, without alcohol or substances to numb you out.
While alcohol may temporarily provide some sort of relief, the second it wears off, you're back to where you were before you drank. Drinking only delays your ability to process and handle grief.
Here are some helpful self care strategies:
- Listen to your body - If you need to cry, then cry. If you need to sleep, then do so. If you need to talk to someone, seek out someone who will listen. If you need to reminisce, then take the time. It is important for the grieving process that you go with the flow.
- Lower expectations for yourself - You can't expect yourself to run at full capacity for some time. Give yourself a break and don't expect yourself to perform as well as you did prior to your loss. Educate others that it will take some time before your performance is back to normal.
- Pamper yourself - Treat yourself well as you would treat your best friend.
- Be aware of others' reactions - Many people do not know how to react appropriately to your grief. Some are more comfortable than others in responding to your situation. Be aware that people have different ideas not only about death, but also about how bereaved individuals should react. Be true to yourself and let others know if they say something inappropriate.
- Get physical exercise- If you didn’t exercise before the loss maybe just start with a walk. If you did exercise before the last try to get back into your routine.
- It’s vital that you get enough sleep during this process. Your mind and body need time to recover from your daily struggles.
- Spend time in nature.
- Get a pet if you don’t already have one.
- Play music that matches your mood.
- Say NO to something and YES for yourself.
- Keep a journal of your feelings and emotions this will help you work through your grief processes.